TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE
There are certain things that spice relationship and
marriage; these include love, tolerance, ability to stay together, vision, etc.
LOVE
For love to develop, it has to go through processes. Some guys
are too quick to preach a sermon of love to a lady they just met. How can you
love someone you just met? Someone you don't
know her liabilities and limitations. I think
people should learn to use some words right, you can be
attracted to a person you met the first time but
you cannot love the person. Some guys do go to the
length of proposing to a lady they just met.
This is bad because for love to develop, it has to go through
processes and any process you skip will reflect later.
ABILITY TO STAY TOGETHER
After love is another process called the ability to stay
together. There are some couples who love one another so deeply, but can't stay
together. Today they are getting on with one another, tomorrow they are
enemies. If you ask the woman she will say he is a beast, but do you love him?
She will say yes. If you ask the man, he will say she is a witch, but do you love
her? He will say yes. This tells us that its not love that is the problem but
the inability to stay together.
TOLERANCE
Beauty, money, love, and sex are important in a relationship
but the most important is tolerance and ability to stay together. Because
behind beauty, money, love and sex lies the true nature of that person in your
life.
Don't think you know a person all, just develop the ability
to tolerate and stay with someone no matter the attitude. You can start with
your rude brother for the ladies, the guys you can start with that
disrespectful sister of yours. The greatest need of a man from a woman is not
basically sex or food but respect.
So any guy who can tolerate disrespect from a woman can bear
anything. The greatest need of a woman from a man is attention. So any woman who
can tolerate lack of attention can tolerate anything.
Don't think you can live with a person by just loving him or her;
believe me love turns bitter when the attitude is awful. Money can buy anything
but cannot buy attitude because its what a person is born with. And don't think
you can change a person. You can influence a person to change but you can't
change him or her.
VISION
Another thing that spices up a relationship is vision. As a
guy, any woman can bear your child but not every woman can carry your vision.
As a lady, any man can be the father of your child but not every man's vision
can carry yours along.
Forget about sex, money and fine looks; look at the man's
vision in life. If a man comes to you for a relationship as a lady, don't ask
him how much he has just ask him his vision and how much his vision can carry
yours along. Some homes today have cracks because the vision of the man and that
of the woman are not the same. In this case you see the man with his own vision
and the woman with hers and this result to two visions in the home which now
leads to di-vision (division) which finally ends in divorce. Beauty is good,
money is sweet, sex is sweeter and love is the sweetest but without vision, the
home is wrecked.
Ladies look for the man with the right vision and he will
always profess, protect, provide and project you forward. Guys look for the lady
who can carry your vision and she will give you peace.
