HOW TO MOVE FROM DATING TO LASTING LOVE/MARRIAGE
Remember
that finding the right person is just the beginning of the journey, not the
destination. In order to move from casual dating to a committed, loving
relationship, you need to nurture that new connection. It's a process that
requires time, effort, and a genuine interest in the other person as a whole.
It also requires openness to compromise and change.
All
relationships change over time. You’ll change over time; your partner will
change, and so will both of your needs and expectations. What you want from a
relationship at the beginning may be very different from what you and your
partner want from that same relationship a few months or years down the road.
For a romantic relationship to blossom into lasting love you need to be willing
and able to:
Invest in the
relationship
No
relationship will run smoothly without regular attention, so ask yourself if
you are willing to invest the time and effort into this relationship. Often,
after the initial blush of romance has faded, couples switch off from one
another, but the more you invest in each other, the more you grow to care. Find
things you enjoy doing together and commit to spending the time to do them,
even when you’re busy or stressed.
Communicate openly
Is
your partner genuinely interested in your thoughts and feelings? Are you
comfortable expressing your own opinions, thoughts, and feelings around this
person? Are you playful, open, and able to laugh together? Your partner is not
a mind reader, so tell him or her how you feel. When you both feel comfortable
expressing your needs, fears, and desires, the bond between you will become
stronger and deeper.
Resolve
conflict by fighting fair
Some
couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and
passionately disagree. No matter how you approach the differences in your
relationship, the important thing is that you aren't fearful of conflict. You
need to feel safe to express the things that bother you without fear of
retaliation, and to be able to resolve conflict without humiliation,
degradation, or insisting on being right.
Accept
change
Every
relationship changes and goes through good and bad periods, but overall a
healthy relationship should continue to be good for you. It should bring the
best out in you and should not only make you happier, but also make you a
better person: kinder, more empathic, and more generous.
