WHAT GUYS REALLY NEED FROM LADIES

Are you highly intuitive when it comes to just about every aspect of your life, however you can't figure what a guy wants in a woman? Have you over analyzed, over thought and over worked your love life, but you've had disappointing results? Are you a strong willed, ambitious and career oriented woman who is looking for love, but men seems unwilling to fall for your type? The business world is light years away from matters of the heart and your approach needs to be in keeping with love, not career.

First realize that a date is nothing like a job interview or a business meeting. You don't want to plow your way in, prove yourself and have the upper hand. Think of it more as a carefree lunch with a co-worker or friend. You want to enjoy the time you spend with this man and you want him to have fun with you.

Make the conversation light and don't bog it down with too many insinuations, expectations or rivalry. Some career women go out of their way to prove they are smart and hard-working and they end up turning the date into a competition in the process.

All of a sudden the guy is left defending his own choices in life. Not much fun in that.

The other end of the spectrum has women going overboard as they try to be everything they believe the man is looking for. They're sweet and nice and generous and are willing to do anything the guy suggests without even questioning it.

They also jump on the phone the moment he calls and drop everything in order to make it to a last minute date with him. Remember that guys like to be challenged a bit and they enjoy the mystery that surrounds a woman who isn't too eager to jump to his beck and call. Their senses come alive when they know that they have to prove they deserve your attention and affection.

Hold back a bit and let him know that you do have a life going on. This can be a balancing act for the woman with an extremely busy calendar, but you should neither be readily available nor impossible to get a hold of. If you're seeing him once or twice a week, you're on healthy ground.

With all this, do keep in mind that men's first line of attack is their visual sense. They see. They like. They chase. If your business sense has led you to wearing severe suits that are modest, manly and unappealing, consider changing into something more feminine and attractive when you set out to meet a man.

On the other hand, if your business sense is all work and no fussing with your appearance at all, you should look into putting in a bit of time to tend to your hair and makeup before a date. Not that you should be competing with models or bimbos, but you do want to appear to care about your appearance.

Ultimately, men want to be with a woman they find physically desirable and with whom they can feel relaxed as they enjoy their time with her. He wants to feel strong and manly, but also wants to know that he can be vulnerable.

Communication is vital and you should do everything you can to assure he feels he can open up and tell you just about anything. This isn't a license to pry, but the way you respond to him will either shut him up or have him wanting to divulge his deepest secrets and emotions.